Marriage

I decided to Blog about marriage tonight, because well, honestly I am tired of hearing about and seeing so many celebrity breakups. Not only do I get tired of hearing and seeing the latest tabloids when it comes to celebrities, but I get tired of witnessing it in my everyday life as well. With all the divorce and affairs going on Hollywood likes to tell us that it's "The Norm", or it's "Free Love", but I've got news for you. There is no such thing as "Free Love" Everything comes at a cost. When my husband and I said I do, that was and is a commitment we made to each other and to our creator, God. This commitment is not just for now, but for forever. Not until our good looks expire, or we become ill, or bankrupt, but for FOREVER. I know forever is a concept hard for some people to grasp, so let me break it down for you. This doesn't mean one morning you wake up and say "Hey Man, I am so sick and tired of my wife nagging me all the time" "I think it's time to move on to the next bigger and better thing" No, Forever is something you must work on. I am not saying forever is by any means a piece of cake, but it can be accomplished. A marriage, is a lot like a job or a skill. The more you work at it, the better it gets with time.
I get so tired of hearing "well her husband treated her like crap, so I don't blame her for going out and having an affair" or "well they have been having problems for sometime now" There are no excuses! I am not saying one can't be forgiven for their actions, but when someone cheats, the damage has already been done. Like I said there is no such thing as "Free Love" everything comes at a cost. I think many times, people like to think the grass may be greener on the other side. The question is, as to what cost? I know so many people whether it be in past work relationships, or I heard it through a friend of a friend, who literally consider it normal to cheat. Like it is no big deal to them whatsoever. It's almost as if they are totally and completely oblivious to what might happen to them or their family members. "My husband will never find out" that is another one of my favorites. This literally disgusts me! If your marriage means absolutely nothing to you, then why did you bother to get married in the first place? Another thing that sickens me, are those people who are single and know they are messing around with a married man or woman. Why would you want to be the reason for heartache in someone's family? Especially those that are married and have kids. Try explaining it to them. All our actions have consequences. I give major props to those who have been in a situation like this and actually have the strength to work it out. How do you ever rebuild that trust? I have tried to put myself in their shoes, but ultimately my decision is always the same-How could I ever respect/trust that person ever again? I cannot even began to imagine my own husband, the man I love with all my heart, ever doing something like that. How can one throw away everything they have in just a matter of seconds? All I have to to say is you better be ready to pack up your bags and GET OUT! It had better been worth it!
All marriages have their ups and downs, but it is our actions that ultimately have an effect on everyone. For those of you reading this and have been the one cheated on, I am not saying you can't ever forgive and move on. I believe all marriages are worth fighting for. I just know for me, it would be very difficult. And for those of you reading this and are the ones cheating, then shame on you. I hope I did step on your toes and I pray that you realize how much heartache this can and will cause in the end. I pray that the people you are hurting are able to forgive and forget.